Woman discovers long lost sister, sister blocks her on social media, woman shows up at her work: 'She had no interest in forging a relationship'

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    I MEDIONmobile Einstellung "Esty told me once more to stop messaging her Kar and leave her alone" gram 5 Twitt 1 Abook Wattpa 129 Mail
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    AITA for turning up at my sister's work after she told me not to bother her?
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    I (16F) have an older sister Esty (33F). Esty and I didn't know that the other existed until 5 months ago when I had to go to the hospital for stitches. We share a dad and he came in just as she was discharging me - my mum was with me. Our surname is common. My mum didn't even know that he had an older daughter.
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    Since finding out, I have wanted to know more about my sister. I've always wanted a sibling but I'm an only child. I could have done with a big sister guiding me and it turns out that I had one all along. All my dad has said is that her late mum turned her against him. He refuses to talk about her, but I did find out that they've had no contact since she was about 16. I found Esty on FB and Insta so I reached out to her. She didn't answer my first couple of messages on FB, but she only responded
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    When she responded she asked that I stopped liking her pictures, she has since made that account private and blocked me. I responded with asking her questions as there were pictures of her and her partner, and her kids.
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    I wanted to know more about my niblings and about her. Esty responded telling me to leave her alone as she wasn't interested in forging a relationship with dad or 'the spawn of Satan'. I was offended at this and started asking her what dad had done for her to be so hostile because he was nothing but nice to me and mum. Esty told me once. more to stop messaging her and to leave her alone. She then blocked me.
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    On my way home from my job at the weekend, I dropped by the hospital where she works to see if she was there, to see if we could talk. Even if just for a minute. Esty saw me as she was leaving and got mad. I told her that I only wanted a minute to talk to her so I could find out more about my sister. She told me that I was just like dad and that I needed to leave
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    her alone as she had no interest in forging a relationship with me. She told me that if I turned up again when I didn't need treatment she would be getting the receptionist to call security and have me removed.
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    When I got home, I mentioned that I saw Esty to my parents but that she had threatened to call security. Mum told me that Esty maybe just needed time and I shouldn't have turned up at her work but dad thinks I did the right thing as Esty was being pushing me away. AITA for turning up at my sister's work? by
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    Edit: I received a message this morning from my uncle (Dad's older brother who dad isn't close with). He had seen this post. Those of you who guessed that Dad left Esty and her mum for mine, were wrong.
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    Apparently Dad wasn't nice to Esty and her mum, but it got worse after an accident when Esty was 13 which resulted in her losing a lot of her hearing and having to wear hearing aids. My uncle said that he had heard my dad refer to Esty as defective a few times because she was deaf.
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    Esty's mum put her into private therapy to help her come to terms with what had happened and to help get be able to communicate again. Dad tried several times to remove this saying that Esty didn't deserve it.
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    The following year, Dad went to prison for a year and when he was in prison her mum filed for divorce. They moved away. Dad and Esty used to keep in touch via letters (her's went to my uncle's because her mum didn't want him to know where they were), but when she turned 16 she stopped after Dad wrote her a letter telling her that he wanted her to keep away from him as my mum was expecting me and he didn't want 'her defectiveness to rub off on the new baby'.
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    I didn't know my dad could be so cruel. Esty seems lovely, but now I get why she doesn't want contact. I wish I had left her alone. I didn't want to know this about my dad.
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    Away_Refuse8493 20 hr. ago YTA What you are doing is called "stalking" and while your dad may be "nice" to you and your mum, he never told you this whole time he had another child. He was a deadbeat, and possibly worse, to her.
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    Your dad's opinion is meaningless. If he wanted for his children to have a relationship, he had 33 years to work on that. 2.9k Reply Share
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    GamerGirlLex77 · 18 hr. ago edited 18 hr. ago For real. This behavior is alarming. I'm sorry that she doesn't want to know you but that does not mean you get to stalk her. I know it's harsh but please back off. YTA.
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    I'm also curious as to why your dad kept this to himself for so long. This romanticized fantasy of having an older sister in your life is not reality. She's a stranger and she's asked you to leave her alone. All I see in your post is consideration for what YOU want. Esty's feelings have been repeatedly dismissed by you. You're lucky she doesn't get a restraining order. 736 Reply Share
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    Kittenn1412. 20 hr. ago YTA. Look kid, sit down with me for a moment. Breathe, stay calm, relax. When you're done reading this comment, sit down and touch grass and think about it for a good while before deciding what to do next.
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    What you are doing is called stalking, and it's a crime. The word for what you're doing is stalking. This woman is a complete stranger to you, no matter that you share genes. She is not your sister, her children are not your "niblings", she is a stranger. Who you stalked virtually and when she blocked you, escalated to stalking her in real life. You have been stalking a strange adult woman in real life. 1.2k Reply Share
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    MonarchOfDonuts 20 hr. ago • YTA: Esty told you what she wanted. You ignored that. By making a public spectacle of all this, you have burned whatever chance you might ever have had that, in time, she might choose to know you. You do not know your dad's history with Esty, and even though you personally have a good relationship with him, there are some red flags that strongly suggest he may not have been as cool with her as he apparently was with you. (#1 his wife/your mother didn't even know abou
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    Also: You went by a hospital? Where this woman is trying to provide health care to people in crisis? That's a terrible job to swing by to uninvited even under much better circumstances than these.

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